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Excerpts from the following. Brehm, S. S. (1988). Passionate Love. In R. J. Sternberg & M. L. Barnes (Eds.), The Psychology of Love (pp. 232–263). Yale University Press. Singer, J. L. (1980). Romantic Fantasy in Personality Development. In K. S. Pope and Associates. On Love and Loving (pp. 172–194). Jossey-Bass Publishers. Friedlander, S. & Morrison, D. C. (1980). Childhood. In K. S. Pope and Associates. On Love and Loving (pp. 27–43). Jossey-Bass Publishers. The Psychology of Love  is a classic book with many useful chapters (by J. A. Lee, Hatfield, Shaver & Hazan, Peele, and others). On Love and Loving is available to view on archive.org , with account creation. I obtained a copy of this book some time ago after finding Sternberg refers to it in his discussion of intermittent reinforcement [comparing Tennov and the chapter by Livingston], but it has other useful writings. One funny thing is that the authors in this book don't entirely agree on what "romantic lo...

"Unmet needs" theory of limerence originates from the psychoanalysts, especially Theodor Reik, and some (mainstream) authors have written about it. Verhulst (1984) on limerence defines "readiness" this way:  Before limerence begins, a person may be in a state of readiness and heightened susceptibility for limerence (Tennov, 1979; Money, 1981). Biological factors, such as the surge in hormone levels during adolescence or the level of general arousal and energy, undoubtedly play a role. However, several authors have emphasized the importance of psychological factors such as preceding loneliness, discontent, and alienation (Reik, 1941; Fromm, 1956; Shor and Sanville, 1979). Note that Reik is mentioned here, linking him to limerence directly. Hatfield & Walster (1985, pp. 59–60; originally 1978, a source also referred to by Tennov) explain Reik this way: THE GREATER OUR NEED, THE MORE GRANDIOSE OUR FANTASIES Sigmund Freud claimed that "happy people never make f...